Networked: How Much is Too Much?

Update: I was prompted to revisit this post, originally written in June of 2007, after I read a great entry written by Dr. Casado, titled “El Que Segmenta, Gana” (The person who segments, wins).

Also relevant to this topic, the post from earlier in 2011 “10 ways to clean up your Twitter feed“.

Enjoy…

 


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“Each of us will belong to between 12 and 24 online and/or mobile communities by 2010, and our power to do good things and disrupt old industries will be unique and radiant.” – David Silver, Smart Start-Ups

Reading this phrase recently made me wonder how many communities am I currently a part of? This was the tally I arrived at:

  • Propeller: the Student Portal I manage at Full Sail. (2011 Update: no longer working there)
  • Last.FM: to share the music I listen, so can find… more new music to listen (2011 Update: left it in 2009, when Last.FM sold out)
  • Twitter: to share what I do in a micro-blog fashion (2011 Update: I share but I also listen a lot… it’s a great tool to stay on top of topics you care about by NOT following a ton of people)
  • Flickr: where I share my photos and comment on friends’ photos (2011 Update: still use it but gradually less and less)
  • YouTube: I mean, who doesn’t know YouTube? (2011 Update: fairly active member, mostly contributing content and featuring other people’s content)
  • LinkedIn: for business purposes. (2011 Update: one of the top networking resources I use)
  • Del.icio.us: to share interesting web sites I run into (2011 Update: very rarely use it. Have found Evernote to be just as useful)
  • Digg: allows me to “vote” on links, though at times it gets a little annoying (2011 Update: I still have an account or two, but I almost never go there)
  • MySpace: to listen to music, once in a while (2011 Update: … rings a bell…)
  • Facebook: starting to warm up to it, but really not something I am on constantly (2011 Update: I have warmed up to it… and use it daily, so do nearly 700 million people around the world)
  • TuDiabetes: the social network for people touched by diabetes in English that we founded in 2007. Now it has  more than 20,000 members.
  • Amazon.com: people can now comment on other people’s reviews (2011 Update: I continue to occasionally write a review, but I can no longer dedicate much time to it, as I used to a few years ago)
  • Kinzin: a social network for families (2011 Update: no longer a member + they are no longer a family-oriented, but a group-oriented photo-sharing site)

New communities, from June 2007 until June 2011:

  • EsTuDiabetes: when I wrote this article, we still hadn’t started EsTuDiabetes, our social network for people touched by diabetes in Spanish, now with almost 14,000 members.
  • Quora: I was VERY excited about it at the beginning of the year. I still think it has potential, but I haven’t found it to be useful for a lot of the things I would use it for. This is to say I have gotten very little value out of it so far.
  • Yelp: since I moved to the Bay Area, it has become a must-use resource to help choose places to eat, car shops, you name it!
  • SlideShare: a fantastic resource for sharing and embedding documents and presentations.
  • UStream: a monthly user in connection with Video-Chat sessions we host on EsTuDiabetes. Now it integrates beautifully into networks on Ning.
  • Wikipedia: I know it may sound like an odd “community” to list, but behind the troves of articles there is a vibrant community that I have made an effort to contribute to as part of the lessons I learned las year.
  • Ping: Apple’s half-rear-ended approach to do what LaLa used to do. I basically just “Like” songs once in a while to share them via Twitter here and there…

In 2007, I was a member of 13 communities where I participated in on a regular basis! Fast forward to 2012, the number is… (drumroll)… 13! Not much as changed, huh? I guess the level of engagement has changed and having a clear idea of what each community/network is for, realizing that you get what you put into it.

 

(from this point on, the post is the same as in 2007)

So, I begin to wonder: how much is too much? After all, all of these online communities do add something to my life in one way or another, don’t they? Or is it possible I may be letting other things pass by the side by spending too much time online?

Social Networking Fatigue and Other Online Ailments
A while back, I was filling up my tank at a nearby gas station and noticed an ad above the pump that said: “Has ‘Pay at the pump’ made us lonelier people?” and went on to invite you to hop in to talk to the cashier once in a while, instead of always using your card to pay outside.

That little message stuck with me. In today’s social media environment, we claim to have more “friends”, yet how many people do we really get to talk to, how many folks could we claim we really know. Not too many: like a comment on this post said, “… having friends is about not just sharing information, but responding uniquely and interacting with said friend.”

Is the solution to unplug ourselves in order to deal with the Social Networking Fatigue that comes from dealing with hundreds of people? Should we go cold turkey and erase our names from the Social Networks of the world (good luck with getting Google to wipe you out!)?

That may be a bit extreme, because we’d loose the real opportunity that these tools give us to connect or reconnect with the people we can’t physically stay in touch with. But, in general, we have lost some of that “touch” that things used to have.

Remember the movie Cars? The whole organic experience that Route 66 used to bring to the lives of travelers was substituted by the speed that the Interstate brought to their trips, getting them quicker to where they were going to, but loosing them the chance to really connect with others during their trip through the Southwest desert.

I don’t think there’s any going to go back to our pre-online times (nor does it make sense), but next time you realize it’s been hours since you last spoke to someone, turn off the monitor, grab your keys and go pump gas somewhere. Just remember to say “Hi!” to the guy inside when you do! ;)

Why I am SO proud of Andreina (my wife)

Last week, Andreina sold her biggest and most valuable piece ever (the big tree in the photo below) as part of her show at City Art Gallery. I saw the piece evolve over time and saw it emerge out of the canvas as she gradually built it into the gorgeous painting that it became.

This piece serves as an example of the evolution I have seen in Andreina and how she’s taken her artwork to a whole new level. I used to really like her work back when she started painting, while we lived in Orlando. But today, I LOVE her paintings. I know I sound biased and maybe I am, but I just want to say it: I am proud of you, Andre! You are really an incredible artist and your art will continue to touch the lives of many more people. TE AMO (I LOVE YOU!)

If you haven’t visited the show at the gallery, come by (828 Valencia St. in San Francisco). The show is still open and she (along with many other incredible artists) has many more amazing pieces. I invite you too, to become a fan of her at Evolve Art Studio on Facebook

Meme: I've come to realize…

Inspired by Kerri, who stole from George, who lifted it from LeeAnn.

After what others have written, I feel a bit clown-ish writing what I’ve come to realize, but I needed a mental break over lunch…

1. I’ve come to realize that my chest-size… is not really all that impressive!

2. I’ve come to realize that my job… is not really a job. I am blessed to be able to do what I do every day.

3. I’ve come to realize that when I’m driving… I am beginning to act like a senior citizen.

4. I’ve come to realize that I need… to get more sleep!!

5. I’ve come to realize that I have lost… quite a lot of hair.

6. I’ve come to realize that I hate it when… people can’t see past themselves.

7. I’ve come to realize that if I’m drunk … I’m fun. And sometimes I dance on bars.

8. I’ve come to realize that money… moves too many things and it shouldn’t be so.

9. I’ve come to realize that certain people… make a lot of noise upstairs. :)

10. I’ve come to realize that I’ll always… love music.

11. I’ve come to realize that my siblings… are non-existent! :P

12. I’ve come to realize that my mom… will never get over the fact that I am 37 years old.

13. I’ve come to realize that my cell phone… is too faithful to me, considering what I subject it to.

14. I’ve come to realize that when I woke up this morning… my wife brought me a cup of coffee. The precious moments in life!

15. I’ve come to realize that last night before I went to sleep… I read Harry Potter 1 with my son. The precious moments in life!

16. I’ve come to realize that right now I am thinking… I am, really! I am thinking! :)

17. I’ve come to realize that my dad… is the person I admired most in the world. I miss him so much.

18. I’ve come to realize that when I get on Facebook… I first read any comments others may have left for me and then check my home page. Does that make me anal?

19. I’ve come to realize that today… is #bgwed!! :)

20. I’ve come to realize that tonight… I will probably fall asleep early.

21. I’ve come to realize that tomorrow… the weekend is one day closer.

22. I’ve come to realize that I really want to… read more.

23. I’ve come to realize that the person who is most likely to repost this is… you!

24. I’ve come to realize that life… is like a box of chocolates. I prefer dark chocolate.

25. I’ve come to realize that this weekend… I have no plans.

26. I’ve come to realize that marriage… is the best thing in life (along with children) when you are with the right person.

27. I’ve come to realize that my friends… are part of my family.

28. I’ve come to realize that this year… is full of challenges, but with challenges come great opportunities to open new doors and explore new things.

29. I’ve come to realize that my ex is… a good person.

30. I’ve come to realize that maybe I should… get new shoes. My left foot is killing me.

31. I’ve come to realize that I love… to see people help each other out.

32. I’ve come to realize that I don’t understand… war.

33. I’ve come to realize my past… will not get in the way of my future.

34. I’ve come to realize that parties… are fun, but it can be just as much fun (or more) to hang out with 2-3 people that you love.

35. I’ve come to realize that I’m totally terrified… of guns and people who swear by them.

Ning For Dummies is DONE!

I just sent out the last revisions to Nicole, the Project Editor! I am tired but very excited. My first book is done!!!

Thanks to everyone for your encouragement throughout the writing process!!!

AND, if you have an interest in social networking and run a social network on Ning (or are planning to run one), please order a copy of the book.

I guess I will be blogging some more again. :)

TuDiabetes on Hallmark Heroes: the video


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The folks at Hallmark Channel and the production company were kind enough to allow us to post the segment of the Hallmark Heroes show where we had the honor of being featured last Dec. 25 and 28.

For more details about the show, please visit:
http://www.hallmarkchannel.com/publish/consumer/home/shows/heroes.html